May 15, 2010
You and Your Guy: Going to Different Colleges
You can't wait to go to college! You're signed up to live in a dorm that you'll take from drab to fab with the help of your roomie. The school has a great program and your schedule allows you to sleep in on two mornings out of the week. You've really found the perfect school! Your bf can't wait for college either and he's found the perfect school, too. But it's not the same one as you're going to.
Yes, it's a bummer. But it's not the end of the world. And it's not a reason to freak out, withdraw your admission acceptance, and apply to his school. Believe it or not, this can be a very good thing. Here's why:
For one, college is about going to school, studying, and getting a degree. At this age, that should be your first priority. If your relationship is meant to last, then you two will be completely supportive of each other. That includes you supporting him going to the school that's best for him and vice versa.
Secondly, college is a time for you to gain new experiences and make new friends. If you two end up going to the same school and not knowing anyone there but each other, it could hinder the both of you from branching out. If you go to different schools, you'll both be forced to get to know people you might not get to know otherwise. You'll get a whole new set of friends that you can introduce each other to and hang out with when he comes to visit or you go to visit him.
Going to different colleges is not the end of your relationship. If you can make it work, then your relationship will actually come out stronger in the end. And you'll both be more well-rounded individuals. Don't worry about growing apart. Growing apart is a part of growing up. You could grow apart if you went to the same school and lived on the same dorm floor. If you communicate, trust each other, spend quality time together when you can, and commit yourselves to keeping your relationship young and happy---you'll actually grow closer.
Plus, whenever you get sick and tired of your own campus... just pay your darling bf a visit. :)